Why i have so much hatred for my "dad"?

Im sick of him ruling the household,all of by brothers hate him but not as much as i do ! Everyday there is arguements because of him, ohe makes arguements over the petitest little things, he just a control freak everything has to be done his way, he has no common sense he will be sitting in the living room demands my brother take his dinner tray into the kitchen then 2 minutes later gets up goes into the kitchen gets a pudding or something, i mean come on seriously ! he treats everybody like mud on the bottom of his shoe he swears every single swearword to me and my brothers my youngest is 11 , and i think its disgracefull the way he treats my mum, my mum every single night cooks our dinner, tidys the table emptys the dishwasher, takes us to school ,does the food shopping takes us to get things we need.and not once has he taken us to school, no once has he cooked dinner he doesnt know how to use an oven or a microwave or how long to cook food, and how much of a coincidence is this every single time my mum goes shopping to sainsburys he always ends up in the bath when she gets back so he doesnt have to help put it away when she gets in, even at 8:30 in the morning he will be in the bath if shes gone out to get the shopping or at 4:30 in th afternoon on a weekend, my mum works full time , so does my dad but he does nothing when he gets in just stuff to suit himself ! he also always cleans his car just 2 minutes before we are about to go out somewhere always been like it, i have been off with him for 5 years now, i despise him his attitude to the family, especially my mum,im 16 and my life is same **** diffrent day i just dont know why my mum puts up with him, i think he has anger issues because he ends up frothing at the mouth in an arguement, and when your having an arguement with him you cant even get a word in he doesnt listen to anything he just shouts over you. i dont like him anywhere near me, i dont even like to look at him or have convosation with him i try to keep myself to myself but he's just like oh you need to lighten up and cmile for once and blah blah blah, but not when hes around i cant i just grit my teeth and dont speak his presence just angers me so much,! and every holiday he ruins it by being a complete **** ! and everybodys birthday in my family he ruins ! i didnt even want to write out his fathers day card this year but i had to. and the fact that evey time he has an arguement with someone he expects them to be all matey and fine with them as if nothings happened 5 minutes later and that boils my blood ! does not apologise or anything arghh ! what can i do ? i dont want to become close with him because of his ways he just hurts everyone , id be better off without him !, if anyone can give me suggestions id be grateful anyway i can release my anger i feel when he's around